#BlogElul Day 8: Hear

When I was a teenager, I heard someone make an observation. I found it so applicable, and have rediscovered its truth in my own life many hundreds of times since then. I will share it now.

When people converse, they don’t hear most of what their conversation partners are saying.

A and B are talking to each other. “A” talks for ninety seconds. But ten seconds in, B has heard something that triggers his desire to respond. A’s next eighty seconds are wasted. Then B talks. The scenario occurs in reverse. The conversation becomes absurd.

We don’t have to be this way. We can spend time actually hearing, and fight back the compulsion to craft our response while we pretend to listen. Just hear and take in a full speech or lesson or class at face value. The critique and analysis can occur afterwards.

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